for Clarity, Healing, and Courage
Cleave Events
Live workshops for people navigating boundaries, estrangement, grief, and the cost of telling the truth.
Cleave Events are designed to help you move through painful relational realities with greater clarity, steadiness, and courage.
These are not surface-level conversations. They are honest, practical workshops for people trying to move forward without betraying what is true.
Some events focus on boundaries.
Some on estrangement and grief.
Some on marriage, faith, healing, and family systems.
Our goal is simple: to help you think clearly, move honestly, and feel less alone.
The May Healing Series
Three LIVE workshops for people navigating family pressure, no contact, boundary grief, and the question, “What now?”
Single Workshop: $37
Any 2 Workshops: $57
All-Access Pass: $87
Launch Special: $77 through Monday night
The May Healing Series All-Access Pass gives you access to all three live workshops in the May Healing Series.
This series is designed for people navigating the emotional aftermath of boundaries, family pressure, marriage strain, reconciliation questions, guilt, grief, and the uncertainty of what to do next.
With the All-Access Pass, you’ll receive access to:
Workshop 1: Staying Steady After the Boundary
For those navigating guilt, grief, backlash, second-guessing, and the emotional pull of old patterns after setting a boundary.
Workshop 2: When Family Pressure Attacks Your Marriage
For couples and individuals navigating in-law pressure, triangulation, loyalty conflicts, and family dynamics that strain a marriage.
Workshop 3: Should I Respond, Reconcile, or Stay Silent?
For anyone discerning what to do when a difficult family relationship pulls on them again.
Each workshop is held live online and includes limited-time replay access for registered attendees.
This pass is for those who want to walk through the full May series and gain more clarity, steadiness, and practical language for the road ahead.
Includes live Zoom access and limited-time replay access for all three workshops.
The May Healing Series 2-Workshop Bundle allows you to choose any two live workshops from the May Healing Series and save when you register for both together.
This option is ideal if two of the workshops speak directly to your current situation, or if you want deeper support without committing to the full series.
Choose any two of the following workshops:
Workshop 1: Staying Steady After the Boundary
For those navigating guilt, grief, backlash, second-guessing, and the emotional pull of old patterns after setting a boundary.
Workshop 2: When Family Pressure Attacks Your Marriage
For couples and individuals navigating in-law pressure, triangulation, loyalty conflicts, and family dynamics that strain a marriage.
Workshop 3: Should I Respond, Reconcile, or Stay Silent?
For anyone discerning what to do when a difficult family relationship pulls on them again.
At checkout, you’ll be asked to select the two workshops you’d like to attend.
Each workshop is held live online and includes limited-time replay access for registered attendees.
Includes live Zoom access and limited-time replay access for your selected two workshops.
Staying Steady After the Boundary
Guilt, family pressure, children, grandparents, and the emotional pull to go back.
Staying Steady After the Boundary is for anyone who has set a boundary, gone low contact, created distance, or stepped out of a harmful family pattern — and now feels the emotional pressure that comes after.
Maybe you know the boundary was necessary, but you still feel guilt, grief, fear, second-guessing, or pressure to reconcile before anything has actually changed.
Maybe you’re trying to navigate family narratives, accusations, triangulation, or the painful feeling that everyone else has a version of the story that makes you look like the problem.
Maybe your boundary now affects other relationships — with children, grandparents, siblings, spouses, in-laws, or extended family — and you’re trying to stay compassionate without losing clarity.
In this live workshop, we’ll talk about what happens after the boundary: why peace can still feel painful, why guilt often shows up after you choose health, how to recognize the difference between conviction and manipulation, how to stay grounded when family pressure intensifies, and how to protect the next generation without carrying false guilt.
This workshop will help you move forward with more steadiness, clarity, compassion, and confidence — without abandoning the truth that led you to set the boundary in the first place.
Includes live Zoom access and limited-time replay access.
When Family Pressure Attacks Your Marriage is a live workshop for couples and individuals navigating the strain that extended family pressure, triangulation, guilt, loyalty conflicts, and unhealthy family systems can place on a marriage.
In this workshop, we’ll talk about what it looks like to protect your relationship when family dynamics become intrusive, emotionally manipulative, or divisive. We’ll explore how to recognize unhealthy patterns, stay emotionally grounded, communicate more clearly as a couple, and remain united without becoming reactive, harsh, or consumed by guilt.
This workshop is designed to help you strengthen your marriage, create greater clarity around outside pressure, and move forward with more peace, honesty, and alignment.
Includes live Zoom access and limited-time replay access.
Should I Respond, Reconcile, or Stay Silent? is a live workshop for anyone trying to discern what to do when a difficult family relationship pulls on them again.
Maybe they reached out. Maybe a birthday, holiday, wedding, illness, or family event is creating pressure. Maybe guilt has resurfaced. Maybe part of you wants peace, part of you wants distance, and part of you is afraid of making the wrong choice.
In this workshop, we’ll talk about how to slow down, recognize old patterns, separate guilt from wisdom, and discern your next step with more clarity. We’ll explore what healthy reconciliation actually requires, when silence may be the most peaceful response, and how to make decisions without being driven by panic, pressure, or fear.
This workshop is designed to help you move forward with honesty, courage, and steadiness — whether your next step is responding, reconciling, maintaining distance, or simply taking more time.
Includes live Zoom access and limited-time replay access.
New to our workshops or missed April’s live events?
These recordings are the foundation for the May Healing Series.
April Workshop Recordings
Missed the April workshops? You can now access the recordings and move through the teaching at your own pace.
These two workshops are designed to help you understand the foundation of healthy boundaries, guilt, grief, and the emotional aftermath of low contact or no contact.
Boundaries Without Guilt is for the person who knows something needs to change, but feels overwhelmed by guilt, fear, pressure, or the thought of disappointing others.
In this workshop recording, we talk about what boundaries are, what they are not, why guilt often shows up when you begin telling the truth, and how to stop confusing love with self-abandonment.
This recording will help you better understand how to set boundaries with more clarity, compassion, and steadiness, without needing to become harsh, reactive, or cruel.
Includes workshop recording and supporting resources.
Healing After No Contact is a faith-centered workshop for the person navigating the grief, guilt, loneliness, backlash, and emotional aftermath that can come after going low contact or no contact.
This is not about becoming cold, bitter, or hardened. It is about learning how to heal with compassion, clarity, and steadiness after a painful but necessary boundary.
In this workshop recording, Jon and Ashley talk through why no contact can bring both relief and grief, why you may still miss people who were not safe for you, how to understand the ache of ambiguous loss, and how to stay grounded when guilt, pressure, or second-guessing resurfaces.
You’ll walk away with more language for what you’re carrying, more compassion for yourself, and more clarity as you continue healing.
Includes the workshop recording and supporting resources.
The April Workshop Recording Bundle includes both foundational workshop recordings from the April Cleave Events series:
Boundaries Without Guilt
For those learning how to set healthier boundaries without spiraling into guilt, fear, over-explaining, or self-abandonment.
Healing After No Contact
For those processing the grief, loneliness, backlash, and emotional aftermath that can follow low contact, no contact, or family estrangement.
Together, these recordings will help you better understand the foundation of boundary work: how to tell the truth with more clarity, how to stop carrying guilt that is not yours, and how to begin healing after a relationship changes.
This bundle is ideal if you missed the live April workshops or want to revisit the material at your own pace.
Your Questions, Answered
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Each workshop is designed to be honest, practical, and grounded.
Format
90-minute live Zoom workshop
focused teaching from Jon and Ashley
guided reflection and application
live Q&A
replay available for 7 days
This is not therapy. This is not a substitute for professional mental health care. This is not a public group processing session.
It is thoughtful, practical teaching and encouragement for people navigating painful and complex relational realities.
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These workshops may be especially helpful if you are navigating:
toxic family dynamics
emotional manipulation or chronic guilt
enmeshment or codependency patterns
low contact or no contact decisions
Christian confusion around honor, forgiveness, and boundaries
grief after estrangement
the tension between truth, peace, and self-betrayal
You do not need to have everything figured out. You just need to know that something in you is asking for clarity, courage, or steadiness.
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Jon and Ashley Lefrandt are the creators of Leave Then Cleave, a platform dedicated to helping people navigate boundaries, estrangement, healing, marriage, and family systems with honesty, discernment, and faith.
Through their podcast, articles, videos, and book, they have helped thousands of people find language for painful realities they were taught to minimize, spiritualize, or silently endure.
Their work is known for being both compassionate and clear — honest about the cost of telling the truth, but deeply hopeful about what healing can look like on the other side.
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Upcoming live workshops are held on Zoom unless otherwise noted. Past workshop recordings are available as digital products and can be watched at your own pace.
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Yes. Live workshop registrations include limited-time replay access. Past workshop recordings are available separately and can be watched at your own pace.
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Yes. You can still register and watch the replay during the 7-day replay window.
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No. Each workshop stands on its own. You can attend one workshop, choose any two with the 2-Workshop Bundle, or get access to all three with the All-Access Pass.
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No. These are live teaching workshops with guided reflection and Q&A. They are designed to offer practical help and encouragement, not ongoing group therapy or open-ended support sessions.
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No. These workshops are educational and supportive in nature, but they are not therapy, counseling, or mental health treatment.
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Yes, in the sense that Jon and Ashley’s work is deeply shaped by a Christian worldview. But the workshops will remain practical, honest, and accessible for people who are navigating these issues in real life.
