for Clarity, Healing, and Courage
Cleave Events
Our live events are designed to help people navigate some of the hardest relational realities they face with greater clarity, steadiness, and courage.
Some events will focus on boundaries. Some on estrangement and grief. Some on marriage, healing, faith, and family systems.
Each one is created to offer practical guidance, honest language, and grounded encouragement for people who are trying to move forward without betraying what is true.
The workshops below are our current featured live series.
Not to sensationalize pain. Not to oversimplify complex relationships. Not to hand you clichés.
But to help you think clearly, move honestly, and feel less alone.
Two Live Workshops for
Two Stages of the Boundary Journey
Whether you are trying to find the courage to set a boundary or trying to heal from the fallout that came after, this series was created to meet both moments with honesty, wisdom, and practical help.
Boundaries Without Guilt
For those who know something has to change, but feel torn, afraid, conflicted, or unsure how to do it.
You may resonate with this workshop if:
You know a relationship is hurting you, but you keep minimizing it
You feel guilty even thinking about disappointing someone
You struggle to tell the difference between being loving and abandoning yourself
You need language for a hard conversation
You are afraid of backlash, conflict, or being seen as the problem
In this live workshop, we will cover:
what a healthy boundary actually is — and what it is not
how to recognize when a boundary is needed
why guilt shows up when you start telling the truth
how to communicate clearly without becoming harsh
how to prepare for pushback without collapsing under it
what it looks like to follow through with peace and steadiness
You will leave with:
clearer language
a practical framework
more confidence in your next step
less confusion about what love and honesty actually require
Date and time
Wednesday, April 22, 2026 at 7:00 PM Mountain
Healing After No Contact
For those who already set the boundary and are now living with the grief, loneliness, backlash, and emotional aftermath.
You may resonate with this workshop if:
You have gone low contact or no contact and feel emotionally untethered
You keep second-guessing whether you did the right thing
You feel grief over people who are still alive
You are carrying loneliness, family backlash, or smear dynamics
You need help making sense of the emotional whiplash that often follows estrangement
In this live workshop, we will cover:
the grief that often follows estrangement and no contact
why peace and pain can coexist
how to navigate second-guessing, guilt, and trauma bond confusion
how to stay grounded when others misrepresent your decision
how to rebuild inner steadiness when family systems no longer define you
what healing can look like in the aftermath of relational loss
You will leave with:
language for your grief
more stability in your decision-making
clearer expectations for the healing process
practical next steps for moving forward with peace
Date and time
Wednesday, April 29, 2026 at 7:00 PM Mountain
Want both?
If you are somewhere in the middle — still setting boundaries in some relationships while grieving the cost of others — you do not have to choose just one.
Get both live workshops for $57
That includes:
access to both workshops
both replays for 7 days
both sets of teaching and guided reflection
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Your Questions, Answered
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Each workshop is designed to be honest, practical, and grounded.
Format
90-minute live Zoom workshop
focused teaching from Jon and Ashley
guided reflection and application
live Q&A
replay available for 7 days
This is not therapy. This is not a substitute for professional mental health care. This is not a public group processing session.
It is thoughtful, practical teaching and encouragement for people navigating painful and complex relational realities.
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These workshops may be especially helpful if you are navigating:
toxic family dynamics
emotional manipulation or chronic guilt
enmeshment or codependency patterns
low contact or no contact decisions
Christian confusion around honor, forgiveness, and boundaries
grief after estrangement
the tension between truth, peace, and self-betrayal
You do not need to have everything figured out. You just need to know that something in you is asking for clarity, courage, or steadiness.
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Jon and Ashley Lefrandt are the creators of Leave Then Cleave, a platform dedicated to helping people navigate boundaries, estrangement, healing, marriage, and family systems with honesty, discernment, and faith.
Through their podcast, articles, videos, and book, they have helped thousands of people find language for painful realities they were taught to minimize, spiritualize, or silently endure.
Their work is known for being both compassionate and clear — honest about the cost of telling the truth, but deeply hopeful about what healing can look like on the other side.
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Yes. Both workshops will be held live on Zoom.
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Yes. If you register, you will receive access to the replay for 7 days.
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Yes. You can still register and watch the replay during the 7-day replay window.
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No. Each workshop stands on its own. You can attend one or bundle both.
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No. These are live teaching workshops with guided reflection and Q&A. They are designed to offer practical help and encouragement, not ongoing group therapy or open-ended support sessions.
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No. These workshops are educational and supportive in nature, but they are not therapy, counseling, or mental health treatment.
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Yes, in the sense that Jon and Ashley’s work is deeply shaped by a Christian worldview. But the workshops will remain practical, honest, and accessible for people who are navigating these issues in real life.
